It all starts with you

It all starts with you

Hi there

In celebration of the women's month, celebration the strong,worthy,beautiful women out there here is a little something to help you keep at it because the world is in desperate need of you WoW factor in you

 My tertiary years were filled so much curiosity, so eager for the world out there and for something much more and like most women i didn't really know who i was, never mind what I'm worth.i was constantly thinking about who I want to become that I forgot to just be me

 First semester was the hardest, having to choose who to make friends with, basically having to entertain everyone before I could decide whether to allow them in my circle. It was lonely I needed someone and dating was not an option especially because it was my 1st semester So i decided to sit back and observe, I had been so hurt in the past that I just wanted to take my time before i can conclude about anyone, little did i know that it was in this quest that I  find myself The semester was over and i still didn't have one i could call a friend, just a few acquaintances. I would take myself out for ice cream, go shopping by myself and ultimately found myself smiling to jokes i had made up in my mind, I was happy and for the first time i

didn't need anyone to make me happy. Lesson learned: You don't need people to make you happy, all you need is a shift of mindset. Happiness is an inside job

That is when i realised how strong i actually am because i had allowed myself to stand alone.To my surprise a lot of people started gravitating toward me .I had found the joy in me and i was able to share it with others. I didn't have to force it, it came naturally

A woman who follows the crowd is most likely to go further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before- Albert Einstein

I had found my true happiness but it wasn't enough i had to take a step away from the shore and discover new oceans and there was no better way to do that than involve myself with confident positive thinking people. It had taken me too long to realize I'm beautiful just as I am,i couldn't stand still or move backwards i had to elevate I decided to join the student society in my department, I went to the interview and later that day i got a text that said i made it into the committee. The next day i went to my first meeting in the committee, I was confused and to be honest didn’t get anything they said there, they all seemed just too serious

 i took strain at the most simples tasks, i wanted to quit. I didn’t fit it, “these people seem to know what they are doing and I don’t” the voice in my head would intervene once or twice during the meetings.I thought long and hard about quitting, it seemed a much easier solution at the time until the chairperson one day a had a talk with me It was winter afternoon,cold and hazy, we walked together to the students residence like we always do after the meetings, he said "You know most of us are leaving right?,  we hoping that you guys can continue with the committee and i know you guys can do it". I politely said "ok". i couldnt explain the fear i had for continuing, we were losing valuable members and i just didn’t see myself doing anything without them.

I decided to stay.It wasnt easy ,I had to convince myself that it wasnt that bad.The new chairperson was a guy who had no leadership experience, even the smallest thing as chairing a meeting was an torment for him. I had to support him because i understood his terror, i was affraid myself , probably more afraid than him.To add to ur ordeal even the students didnt think we would survive Days had gone by and we had to organise our first event. I had to do something about this fear,i had to confront it and  stare it down.I set down one afternoon and decided to count all the trials i was able to concur, they were countless, even being at that institution was an achievement.

"I am strong" i said to myself.If was able to go through all that and still came out a victor, I can just about anything

" I am strong because i know failure, fear and discourage but still have the courage to hold on and go on"- Anonymous

The second month into the semester we had the first event, it was a success. Both the chairperson and I’s confident was sky high. We concurred our fear Suddenly the committee was my playground, i loved and enjoyed organizing this events. I loved feeling the sense of accomplishment after every successful event i had helped organize. I was confident in my abilities

Two semesters later i had to go start doing my training. Instead of scared I was excited about the unknown, a world out there waiting for me to concur it.Little did i know the challenges awaiting me

 I found myself at the bottom of the ladder, in the City of Gold, a place where everyman is for himself, it was lonely i missed the glory days, i missed my student Representative committee Established men, who have their own and are driving beast cars all fell at my feet, a young girl straight from University,They all knew what i lacked and they were all gracefully willing to give it to me, willing to save me!, for a price of course!,I have to give up my value for a comfortable life.

Never! This phase of lack was just a step closer to my destiny that i had to take,it wasn’t going to remain the same forever,Life is a series of steps one has to take to get to their destination and i wasn’t intending to skip anyone of the steps and miss out on the lesson. I had to stand my ground and disregard the temptation

 I’m not where i want to go as yet but im very much looking forward to it because through my trails im strong,my personality makes me beautiful,im worthy because i respect myself as a woman,Im perfect in my own way and whats more important is that im me and im doing it my way 

Repeat the above paragraph highlighted in purple on your own and say it until you believe it because it is true.Let it all sink in the core of your mind because if u still dont believe in yourself no one will ever do ,never mind respect you as a person

Find your own  place in the sun and dance to your own music.Do not conform to any of the patterns of the world, do it your way and fun while at it.You deserve everything beautiful and everything beautiful you can get as long as you tap into that WoW factor in you

I'm not saying its going to be easy, you are going to be hurt,sad,afraid and discouraged at time but always keep the dream alive and gravitate confidently towards it.You are probably going to fail and make mistakes the first few times, i know i will but its in our mistakes that we learn what works and what doesn't

 Better to die trying than to have never tried at all

 While you are finding yourself and accomplishing a few things in your life remember to take time to celebrate. Don't be too hard on yourself

From us here at Sweets and Lemons we wish  you a very happy women's month,Laugh.love,Work,embrace,Share and be Polite